Monday, December 02, 2013

WORDS, they can BUILD and BREAK.

During a conversation, the choices of word we use somehow has a degree of importance in order to maintain a relationship.
There are different types of people in this world.
Some might be those that do not care what you say about them, they just live the way they are.
But some are sensitive people that gives a damn about every single word you utter that is related to them.
Sorry to say, I am the second category.
Every sentence you say, whether good or bad, lingers in my memory.
Okay, not every sentence. Just the ones I remember.

Recently I have been getting comments about me like,
"Why you cut your hair until so UGLY?"
"Your skin colour are those UGLY type"
"Why you so STUPID one?"

Like seriously?
Lets see what UGLY means in the dictionery..
For looks: It is either 'displeasing to the eye', 'unsightly', 'unpleasant or unsightly appearance', or 'very unattractive'.
Omgosh, do I look that UGLY?

As for STUPID...
1. Slow to learn or obtuse
2. Tends to make poor decision or careless mistakes
3. Lack of common sense, perception or normal intelligence
Omgosh, am I really any of that?

Anyway, back to the main point.
My point is that, at times, we should think before we speak.
Words like ugly or stupid can actually be replaced by words that are not so harsh such as
UGLY = does not suit you, not very nice
STUPID = silly
You don't need to be all-so-direct and call me ugly and stupid :(
These are the small little things in life that can actually break someone's self esteem.
Why would you want to break someone when your intention (probably) is to build them?

When I first heard people calling me ugly or stupid for once.
I thought, hey maybe they are just being honest/straightforward.
But after hearing it several times, I go back and reflect to myself, do I really look that UGLY and STUPID?

choose wisely.
They can build, 
or they can break.

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